SPEAKING YOUR HEART (and direct dealing with people)

,,no legacy is so rich as honesty'' - William Shakespeare

I'm writing this because I wish to raise awareness about the power of a candid word. I am a big fan of outspeaking although of course I don't consider it easy. And I don't say that I'm 100% honest all the time (especially when it comes to dealing with boys I like a lot or people in general I look up to) , but it's one of those qualities I try to pursue and focus on. Because let's be honest here, games have never really helped anybody. It isn't what I've known since forever ofc but these past years amongst people I can trust shaped me somehow. And I also started to work on myself more since I'm an introvert actually and coping with difficult situations that include people is still hard for me to handle. But honesty have recently been a very important value for me. Trying to be sincere have actually been revealing a lot more than just my bravery but also freedom and just a very proud feeling of doing a good thing.

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So I do realize that it is a freaking hard thing to do. Telling a person what you really think. And there are easier things but also more tricky ones. I think that the easier one is to tell your opinion on something. And this act should actually be natural for us, we should be utterly capable of speaking our minds. Whether it's that you don't agree with someone's opinion or when someone asks you what you think, there should be no problem to say it. I know, hard. But I think that in today's world we should be open enough about things that are going to shape our future. Don't be scared to express your disapproval, a single yes or no might effect your growth and future negatively. I still struggle with this form of honesty tho.

But this is not the type of honesty that I wanted this article to talk about. You know, I am surrounded by an awesome group of friends who are supportive and I would give anything just to keep our relationships great. But sometimes even amongst us there are issues which need to be solved. And this is when a true sincere behavior comes. In our friend group I think we are much more mature now and if there is a problem we talk about it, if it's possible. This is not speaking your mind, it's speaking your heart and there is a huge difference between those two. Not that long ago I went through a new situation. I've been thinking about a very important friendship with one friend. And just so you know I've been struggling with working this friendship out since forever. And I remember many times when I felt like talking about it. And I did eventually. And I cannot tell you how freeing it was. And honestly It makes no difference at all whether it's a romantic or just friends relationship you're trying to talk about. I have a friend that always talks to me about things she doesn't appreciate about our friendship. And it is uncomfortable and I do get angry sometimes but I realize that that is exactly the right way to communicate with others. And you need to know that being honest is way less difficult with people you know you can trust. Because telling things genuinely from the heart involves you getting very vulnerable. But even those who you don't know that well or don't trust that much will eventually need to hear the truth from you and you need to risk that.

And after this one act of courage I went through I instantly knew that this is the journey I needed to take. I am naturally very uncomfortable when I don't talk about things genuinely and then they just fade away, I just don't do things like this. And there are still few things I wish to tell to people 'cause I have a feeling that it's not over yet until I speak my heart and also some things I need to mend and heal and I will. So trust me with this. You will not make things worse if you know who you're talking to and what and how you're communicating your thoughts. So be honest and brave to uncover your weaknesses 'cause that's the only way to heal yourself and move on.