SELLING YOURSELF

Whatever you were thinking this article would talk about when you were clicking the button of this post, It is most likely not what you thought. I should just immediately tell you that we are not talking about literally selling yourselves here. Damn.

I mean, we could, but I don’t think I could give you any good advice on this topic. Instead I would like to tell you something about what I caught communicating with people throughout my life.

Firstly: I am successful. All of us. We are successful. You are too. Now, you might be thinking ''I am not''. Then trust me, everybody is good at something. Everybody is actually eminent. The problem we’re facing here is just some kind of weird shyness that makes us all feel bad acknowledging our achievements. Now, there are people who don’t find this as a struggle. There are those lucky ones who have no problem sharing their success but they’re definitely still not boasting. And then there are those who are boastful, well it’s an option too. Secondly: I find it hard to tell others about my well-being, success or accomplishments. I find it way harder to tell others about the good stuff that’s going on in my life than about those bad ones. I rather tell people about my fails and failures - I find it just easier.

Also it is more simple even for those listening to you. From my experience I know very well how to react when someone tells me about a freaking bad family situation in their life than when someone shares about their cool new boyfriend. I know, it’s awful. People are just normally hoping for their own happiness more than for happiness of their relatives, for example.

Talking about what I did well in front of other people makes me feel like I was boasting. But don’t get me wrong it does feel good to tell them about nice things I own or did. The issue is that sometimes there is not a good time to tell but you’re still craving to share your story badly.

Just know, that there is nothing wrong with talking about you and your success with others unless you’re comparing yourself to others, that might be misunderstood, honestly, don’t do that. It doesn’t really matter if the topic is different at the moment, just try and gingerly pitch a new topic to talk about. If it’s your friends they will understand. If they’re not then you’ll know there’s no reason for you to speak to these folks anymore.

I know a girl who is a cool person. She doesn’t find it difficult to say: Hey! I was walking up the street today and a guy came up to me and told me I was super cute! She would say this story and typically add some jokes, which would make it a bit more intriguing but that’s not the point.

See? You are a cool person, you are cute and whatever - and there is absolutely nothing lousy about talking about it. Please just don’t take it like: NOW I CAN BE COCKY AND NO ONE WILL CARE. Trust me, that is not the message.

People will notice you talking about yourself more and unless you say it all the time and without purpose then it’s totally alright. This is an awesome way to practice your self-confidence without really going into a challenging and tricky situation.

Believe me, I am a loser being self-centred. Sometimes you need to be selfish to get rid of those things and people who are destroying you. So be self-confident while being you, while creating and experiencing good things. Don’t let your self-confidence be based on your loser you. People like to watch you lying on the ground and it makes them feel good to comfort you, but we don’t want that.

We want them to see us feel good when feeling good. Right?

I try hard to practise this in real life. And there are going to be guys who won’t take it well. But you know what? You need not take it seriously. If you’re cool playing table tennis, then show it off. If you are great at making origami, rock it. It really doesn’t matter. Your talents aren't cool unless you show people how cool you are doing them. So now you can practise for a bit and write a short (or long?) list of things you know you’re good at. It could be anything, really. I know many of you won’t do it so maybe only think about them. In next few weeks, maybe months try and tell people about them. Don’t push it, be natural. I mean just follow your mind when she’s craving to tell something. When there’s nothing you’re really eager to tell, then don’t. But help yourself, don’t be ashamed and sell yourself. People will be so interested, trust me.

Yours Dominika

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